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Beware of the binky! No more Pacificiers

Who doesn’t love having a few moments of quiet when you pop a pacifier into the mouth of your little? Especially when they’ve been crying non-stop, its the middle of the night, or even if they just need something to gnaw on. It is convenient and easy to reach for. I promise you, whoever invented this thing was a genius.

But let me tell you, this mama will be ex-naying the pacifier from here on out. I had an encounter last night that nearly scared me half to death and made me want to throw it across the room.

Before I give you this honest mommy moment, let me give you some history…

We’ll call this, “DeeJay and the pacifier.” Also known as a binky, bubba, bubby, nub, dummy, Paci and a slew of other names unique to each individual household. I’ve realized people are creative when naming this accessory, but we call it a Binky in our home.

When I first became pregnant with Bug, I was adamant about not wanting him to have a binky. I watched my sister hold onto hers until she was 4 and was certain that wouldn’t be my son. However, life has a way of just ‘happening’ and Bug had a short NICU stay where they gave him a binky without my permission. So, despite my ‘life plan’ for him, he was a binky sucking baby.

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Luckily, when he was around 10-11 months, I would notice him chewing on the binky instead of sucking on it and I knew his time was up. I stopped giving it to him and that transition was fairly easy. Somewhat of an out of sight out of mind concept.

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Fast Forward…

During my pregnancy with Bee, I just knew that I did not want her to have a binky either. I wanted her to learn to self-soothe in other ways. I didn’t want her dependent on a binky. That was until she arrived and I realized very quickly that she was a crier. Not just a regular crybaby but she was only subdued by my boob. Can you imagine that? So for the first few weeks of her life, she was practically on my boob 24/7. If she wasn’t feeding, she was using it as a soother. I was miserable. MISERABLE! I wasn’t sleeping and I couldn’t do anything.

You better believe after experiencing such fatigue, I ran (not literally) to target and purchased a 2-pack of the Nuk pacifiers. I got the 2-pack because I didn’t want to even take the chance of losing one and being without. It was THAT serious. I didย exclusively breastfeedย at the time, but I didn’t even care about nipple confusion. Bee needed a binky. And no surprise to me, she hated it. She would spit it out and still cry with it in her mouth. But after much persistence from her overly aggressive mother, she eventually began to take it and my boobs started to get a much needed break.

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Can we all say Hallelujah for the binky!

To this day, her binky has been my best friend. In my Drake voice, its “my right hand, my go-to” and I am not ashamed to admit it. And it is with much dismay that I have to get rid of it now. However, Bee’s safety is more important than my peace of mind, and we will find other ways to make it through.

You guys ready for this horror story?

So Bee is almost 6 months and does not sleep through the night. And yes I cosleep. So our nightly routine typically goes something along these lines. She goes to sleep around 8/8:30. Between 2 and 3am she wakes up to eat. Typically if she wakes up again after that, but before 7am, I will just give her the binky and she falls back to sleep. But last night, it went down a bit different.

Bee woke up to eat, and dozed back off. She then woke up about an hour later and was fussy so I tried the binky. Instead of taking it and going back to sleep, she wanted to play with it. She would start to doze and then she would wake herself back up and start chewing on it. She’s teething pretty bad. Realizing that she is not going to sleep anytime soon, I get up to relieve myself and when I come back I hear her fussing.

What do I see upon my return?

Bee had the ENTIRE binky in her mouth. I kid you not. It looked like she had a mouthguard in. So of course I panic and snatch it out of her mouth. Which in turn, makes her break into a full out scream because I startled her. And of course I feel bad, but I reacted in the moment. As soon as I snatched that binky from her a million thoughts ran through my mind. “Has this happened when she’s been in her crib?” “Am I a horrible mom?” “What if I hadn’t come back at that moment?” My nerves were frazzled and I definitely did not sleep the rest of the night. I watched her like a hawk. WITHOUT the binky.

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This experience told me one of two things: 1.) Bee no longer needs her binky since she is now using it as a teether as opposed to a soothing device and 2.) You can never be too careful as a mother.

I share this #MOMFAIL with you guys just as a precaution. I’m sure I’ll receive some criticism and have someone tell me I should have been watching Bee better but I don’t care. If it helps other moms be more vigilant with their children while they have their binky, I’ll take it. Besides, the way I felt about myself in that moment is worse than anything anyone could say.

STAY WOKE MAMAS! LITERALLY ๐Ÿ˜‚

 

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26 thoughts on “Beware of the binky! No more Pacificiers

  1. I was scared for you reading this story!! Lol. It is hard being a mom, but I believe all things happen for a reason. You came at the perfect time to get the binkie before it had a chance to choke your baby. Funny story … a few days after bring my youngest son home, my oldest son tells me he wants to share his crackers with his brother. I didn’t think anything of it and just said yes son, that’s nice of you. A few seconds later I walk by the baby and see him struggling with a cracker in his mouth!! Again, right place at the right time. You are doing an awesome job as a mom!

    1. Omg! I would have had the exact same sentiments I had with the binky in that moment with the cracker! Your son was just too excited to have a baby brother . The sentiment was sweet! And thank you so much for those kind words because in that moment, I questioned it all!

  2. That is not a Mom fail, that is a Wow! Never have I ever seen that happen. How scary!!! Donโ€™t blame yourself but it could be a light story for her one day. Iโ€™d toss them too!!

    1. Thank you for the kind words and sentiments. I was terrified. Iโ€™ve never seen it myself and reacted in the moment. No more binkies for us in this household!

  3. I am not sure I ever had a binky as a kid. I understand how scary it might have been for you and why you tossed the binky away.

    1. Yes, the most terrifying experience. I was skeptical of them before having my first kid, and now… I just don’t recommend them at all. We have found new soothing methods. Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

  4. It’s not a mom fail. Mistakes happen. My kids never liked binkys. They’d spit them right out. But they did suck their thumbs for a long time, which isn’t good.

    1. She has resulted to sucking her thumb to soothe herself to sleep. I do know that is a bad habit in itself, but that is something I will tackle at a later time. For now, I’ve rid myself of all binkies. I wish she was one that hated it. Either one of my kids. Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

    1. Yes, I tried my best to avoid them but Bee is quite the unique child. But after that I don’t care what I have to deal with in terms of soothing her, there are no more binkies allowed.Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

  5. You always have that trial and error. Good thing you need to be awake! Nova doesnโ€™t need her binky anymore.

    1. She sure doesn’t! Such a scare experience. But, I am grateful I was able to catch it! Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

  6. Wow that’s so scary! I’m glad you were able to stop it before it got worse. She could’ve choked on it! My mom had the same fears and she never let me or my sisters near a binky.

    1. Your mom was smart! To say it was a lesson learned is an understatement. That was real fear. Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

  7. Wow that must have been so scary for you. I cant believe she fit the whole thing in there. My Son used a soother until he was around 6 months. Lucky for us he pretty much weaned himself off of it.

    1. Iโ€™ve never seen anything like it before! I didnโ€™t even know that was possible. But surely it was a lesson learned. We are now done with them in the household. New soothing methods in full effect

  8. Oh my goodness that must have been scary to see her have the pacifier in her mouth! Thanks goodness nothing happened!

    1. I am so grateful that I was able to catch it in the moment. There is no telling what another minute or even second could have resulted in. I was mortified. Thank you so much for reading ๐Ÿ’•

    1. I didn’t mean to frighten you but I would be a lie if I didn’t say I was terrified. But I definitely wanted to share my story to ensure that parents were more vigilant (as if we needed one more thing to be anxious about lol). Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

  9. My mum doesn’t like binkies, or pacifiers (or dummies as we call them in the UK) either. She never gave them to me or my brothers, and found them weird and unnatural anyway.

    1. That makes sense, I mean they’re shaped in a way to mimic a nipple but artificial. I so have more understanding and appreciation for moms that did not, will not, does not give these to their kids. Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ’•

  10. I am not yet a mom but I do understand that this is happening. I have been seeing some of my cousins, nephews and niece growing up and I some of them really cannot live without pacifiers. It’s a way to let them have a peaceful sleep.

    1. It is definitely an easier soothing method, however this was my lesson that easier does not always equate to better. So cut the bunny out after this episode

    1. Yessss, go baby girl. I was hoping that was the case for my littles, but I was not that lucky lol! Moving forward, if I have more children, I am going to pretend like I don’t know what binkies are. Lol

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